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As they say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

And if a person is suitable in all respects as a person, and looks at least not repulsive to the partner's subjective taste, then all this appearance goes out the window.

In the end, you live with the person, not with their ideal height. And with age, we all become less attractive, what can you do?

But if you get hung up on height or that God forbid a person has even one pimple or other flaw on their face. Or how about not having an ideal fitness figure? Then welcome to the cozy world of loneliness, which some people actually enjoy.

I must have missed the moment when the topic about "everything is serious" actually became serious.

I still hope that Nebo is just joking.

Nebo has just seen too many profiles of young, righteous Christian virgins with three children.

No. Beauty is clearly defined parameters. You can Google the golden ratio, correct proportions of the face, body, etc. Or ask Koshi, she understands this better than I do. There is also the factor of rarity, which also works. And you probably mean personal preference. Like hair color, eye color, hairstyle, style of clothing, image, etc. Out of two beautiful women, I would choose an elf, and Ment would choose a traditional wife. In such cases, beauty is really in the eye of the beholder.

It doesn't work. Out of two people with the same character, they will choose the one who is more beautiful.

Honestly, the people she considers attractive, based on the golden ratio and conventional beauty standards, are just... okay, in my opinion.

It's just that most girls on dating sites leave more or less detailed profiles

and at the very least they post photos (even if some of them are photoshopped).

Whereas most guys only fill in the mandatory minimum required by the site and don't post photos at all.

And what does "inflated expectations" have to do with this?

A perfect example of how overheated the dating market is. A woman sees Alain Delon and says: "Well, he's just... average))) maybe a six out of ten at best." Imagine how much of a mutant you'd have to be for a "woman" to consider you above average? And the truly average ones in their eyes are somewhere between a nobody and a worm-like loser.

This is not called sampling, but systematic selection bias.
An online survey showed that 100% of people use the Internet.
And a survey in a dating app showed that...

And even so. Are all men who don't look like them lonely?)

I'm not just judging based on my own experience, but also on information and statistics. And yes, dating apps are full of ordinary people. The idea that they only contain freaks and perverts is complete nonsense. The only catch is that an ordinary, average woman can easily find a man there (usually more attractive than herself) and delete the app, but for an ordinary man...

Many of my female friends and I have had extremely negative experiences on dating sites. There are tons of creeps who send messages like "give me a blowjob" (this is a real example, if you need it), along with people who are mentally unstable and raise some concerns. And finding a decent guy with average looks and a normal personality is like finding a mythical creature.

The thing is, dating sites attract a very specific audience, and normal people looking for normal relationships don't stick around for long. They either find what they're looking for or give up and leave. But those who can't find a partner or just enjoy switching partners like gloves tend to stay there. So, even though the sample size might be large, it's not very representative. In my social circle, there are many people who found partners at school/work, at interest-based gatherings, through shared hobbies, etc., and almost none who found a partner on a dating site.

Pretty much the same.

But recently, one of my acquaintances decided to try building a relationship with a woman from a dating site. She's, let's just say, a bit "eccentric." Not to mention that she gave birth around 18-19 and already has a 17-year-old daughter who lives independently. And the guy seems to realize that something is not quite right with her (and there are many things that are not right), but he's not ready to break up yet because he also sees some good qualities in her. Including the fact that she spends all her time either at work or with him (she has her own apartment, earns a good living, and is completely financially independent of him and doesn't ask for anything).
I don't even know if his example can be considered positive.

Well, if he has children himself, then it's fine.

He's 35, and less than 170 cm tall (not by much, but he's shorter than me).

Face: 6-7/10.

Oh, Nebos, I didn't expect such naivety from you.

It's okay for him, what options would you suggest, especially if he has no money?