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В прошлом "Координатор турниров Лиги Героев" (www.heroesleague.ru)
For example, you fall in love with someone and suffer because the object of your affection does not love you. This is not love – it is egoism!
It turns out you want the object of your affection to love you. It is presumptuous to want everyone we supposedly love to love us back.
Unrequited love does not exist; we simply call it that. In reality, it is not love, but a desire to make someone fall in love with you (to force them to love you).
Love is only mutual; everything that is not mutual is not love.
As for 3-4 years, it is also not about love. Attachment is not love, and they cannot be put in the same category.
Love requires constant nurturing.
PASSION IGNITES, BUT LOVE IS BORN.
Все в ней нулево и кукольно.
True, pure love is given only by God. It does not have, nor does it carry, any negative emotions! There is no such thing as unhappy love!
For example, you fall in love with someone and suffer because the object of your affection does not love you. This is not love – it is egoism!
It turns out that you want the object of your affection to love you. It is presumptuous to want everyone we supposedly love to love us.
Unrequited love does not exist; we only call it that. In reality, it is simply not love, but a desire to make someone fall in love with you (to force them to love you).
Love is only mutual; everything that is not mutual is not love.
As for 3-4 years, that is also not about love. Attachment is not love, and they cannot be put in the same category.
Love requires constant nurturing.
PASSION IGNITES, BUT LOVE IS BORN.
Complete nonsense from a child!!!
Loving, kind, and compassionate feelings of one towards another are not LOVE ITSELF! It is only the inner world of the loving (or infatuated) person, for whatever reason. Love is reciprocal, pure, and multifaceted.
True, pure love is given only by God. It does not have, nor does it carry, any negative emotions! There is no such thing as unhappy love!
For example, you fall in love with someone and suffer because the object of your affection does not love you. This is not love – it is egoism!
It turns out that you want the object of your affection to love you. It is presumptuous to want everyone we supposedly love to love us back.
Unrequited love does not exist; we only call it that. In reality, it is simply not love, but a desire to make someone fall in love with you (to force them to love you).
Love is only mutual; everything that is not mutual is not love.
As for 3-4 years, that's not about love either. Attachment is not love, and they cannot be put in the same category.
Love requires constant nurturing.
Whether it's mutual or not, why elevate a feeling that is not unique? Almost all people experience it; there is nothing sublime about it, it is just a good feeling, like many others.
Regarding Darwinism and "chemistry" in the brain, a friend of mine says exactly the same thing. It is quite possible that this is the case; a bunch of processes are triggered, but I do not see the point in such an interpretation of the word. It can only explain something to some scientist.
Regarding Darwinism and the "chemistry" in the brain, a friend of mine says the same thing. It's quite possible that this is the case, that a bunch of processes are triggered, but I don't see the point in such an interpretation of the word; it can only explain something to some scientist.
I agree with you.
Judging means being right; judging without arguments already makes you guilty (of judging).
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Childish babble from a girl, don't embarrass yourselves!
Stop spamming!
What is the child wrong about? Regarding the lack of reciprocity - let me explain. Personal feelings are not true love...
Why can only mutual feelings (love - which is a feeling?) be called love? Let's take, for example, any other feeling (emotion - which are synonyms?) - let's say, joy. If a person experiences joy and is the only one on the entire planet (abstractly) experiencing it, it will still be a genuine and complete feeling, not requiring any reciprocity, etc. Why, then, if a person experiences love (not turning into a desire to possess, etc.), is it an incomplete feeling that needs reciprocity to be complete? I'm very curious to hear an explanation. I'm looking forward to it.
Why can only mutual feeling (love – is it a feeling?) be called love? Let's take, for example, any other feeling (emotion – are they synonyms?) – let's say, joy. If a person experiences joy and at the same time they are the only one on the entire planet (abstractly) – this will be a truly complete feeling, not requiring any reciprocity, etc. But why, if a person experiences love (not turning into a desire to possess, etc.) – is it an incomplete feeling, lacking reciprocity for it to be complete? I'm very curious to hear an explanation. I'm looking forward to it.
Well, I'll start with the fact that love is not a feeling, it is a state of the soul (not the body). Love in itself does not carry negative emotions; it is never selfish. Now, let me explain: if a person loves, they will only wish good things for the object of their adoration. If the loving person learns something bad about the loved one, then other feelings intervene, which bring doubts, anxieties, and so on.
All human feelings are personal perceptions as a result of something or even just like that. :)
1. Let's imagine a situation: a girl is madly "in love" with a guy, but he doesn't love her no matter what. Instead of the love I'm talking about, other feelings intervene (jealousy, resentment, anger, a desire to please, etc.). These feelings prevent her from living; she is depressed. What kind of love are we talking about? :) (infatuation)
2. A mother loves her son very much and does everything for him; naturally, she wishes all the best for her child. But if he grows up to be some kind of callous, evil, and insensitive person (violates laws, torments animals, or something else), then the mother begins to fear her offspring. Initially, the mother cannot experience bad feelings, but only love (because love and family are one and the same), but then love disappears, not because the mother no longer wants happiness, but because feelings of fear or something else intervene, and that pure state disappears.
In general, you can be infatuated, but building love is much more difficult.
And now, specifically: Love is not love if it receives unrequited love in return; love without a response is just infatuation. Love is a spiritual feeling and cannot occur, for example, with an object that is dear to us (not spiritual).
Well, I'll start by saying that love is not a feeling, but a state of the soul (not the body). Love in itself does not carry negative emotions; it is never selfish. Now, let me explain: if a person loves, they will only wish good things for the object of their affection. If the loving person learns something bad about the person they love, then other feelings come into play, which introduce doubts, anxieties, and so on.
All human feelings are personal perceptions as a result of something or even just like that :)
1. Let's imagine a situation: a girl is madly "in love" with a guy, but he doesn't love her no matter what. Instead of the love I'm talking about, other feelings interfere (jealousy, resentment, anger, a desire to please, etc.). These feelings prevent her from living; she is depressed. What kind of love are we talking about? :) (infatuation)
2. A mother loves her son very much and does everything for him; naturally, she wishes only the best for her child. But if he grows up to be some kind of callous, evil, and insensitive person (violates laws, torments animals, or something else), then the mother begins to fear her offspring. Initially, the mother cannot experience bad feelings, but only love (because love and family are one and the same), but then love disappears, not because the mother no longer wants happiness, but because feelings of fear or something else interfere, and that pure state disappears.
In general, you can be infatuated, but building love is much more difficult.
And now, specifically: Love is not love if it does not receive love in return; unrequited love is just infatuation. Love is a spiritual feeling and cannot happen, for example, with an object that is dear to us (but not spiritual).
Sorry, I completely disagree with you. I'll explain in more detail why.
1. Well, I don't consider love to be any kind of state of the soul. And I don't quite understand what this "state of the soul" is. So, I don't agree with the definition of love.
2. Your first situation. These feelings, such as jealousy, anger, etc., do not prevent love; that's why they say, "Jealousy means love." And I don't even know what infatuation has to do with it; infatuation lasts for a short time, usually from a couple of months to half a year; it is a bright surge, passion, a lot of emotions. You wrote about passion above; passion is part of infatuation.
3. The second situation, a mother who stops loving her child, whom she raised and brought up, seems like a fantasy to me. Maternal love, in my opinion, is the strongest; I don't believe that any fear can overcome it. That's why it is allowed not to testify against one's family; otherwise, there would be a lot of false testimonies.
4. I agree with the first sentence of the last paragraph. I disagree with the rest.
P.S. Are you a romantic? You elevate this feeling so much.