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Why can only mutual feeling (love – is it a feeling?) be called love? Let's take, for example, any other feeling (emotion – are they synonyms?) – let's say, joy. If a person experiences joy and at the same time they are the only one on the entire planet (abstractly) – this will be a truly complete feeling, not requiring any reciprocity, etc. But why, if a person experiences love (not turning into a desire to possess, etc.) – is it an incomplete feeling, lacking reciprocity for it to be complete? I'm very curious to hear an explanation. I'm looking forward to it.

Well, I'll start with the fact that love is not a feeling, it is a state of the soul (not the body). Love in itself does not carry negative emotions; it is never selfish. Now, let me explain: if a person loves, they will only wish good things for the object of their adoration. If the loving person learns something bad about the loved one, then other feelings intervene, which bring doubts, anxieties, and so on.
All human feelings are personal perceptions as a result of something or even just like that. :)
1. Let's imagine a situation: a girl is madly "in love" with a guy, but he doesn't love her no matter what. Instead of the love I'm talking about, other feelings intervene (jealousy, resentment, anger, a desire to please, etc.). These feelings prevent her from living; she is depressed. What kind of love are we talking about? :) (infatuation)

2. A mother loves her son very much and does everything for him; naturally, she wishes all the best for her child. But if he grows up to be some kind of callous, evil, and insensitive person (violates laws, torments animals, or something else), then the mother begins to fear her offspring. Initially, the mother cannot experience bad feelings, but only love (because love and family are one and the same), but then love disappears, not because the mother no longer wants happiness, but because feelings of fear or something else intervene, and that pure state disappears.

In general, you can be infatuated, but building love is much more difficult.
And now, specifically: Love is not love if it receives unrequited love in return; love without a response is just infatuation. Love is a spiritual feeling and cannot occur, for example, with an object that is dear to us (not spiritual).