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When you diligently hide your true self from those around you for decades, you eventually forget where you put yourself.

So freaking deep... I'll add it to my VKontakte page.

Guys, I'm not judging, but here's what your advice boils down to:

They advise him to seek professional help, not to act like in the picture. And yes, this help almost always involves medication.

And to accept the fact that there's some kind of negativity in your head (hello to the hatred towards those who achieve everything through hard work and the unwillingness to realize that the problem is more likely in your subjective perception of them) and to actually seek psychiatric help and take medication, which you're afraid of becoming addicted to.

We could also mention that just seeing scantily clad girls brings Nebka's mood down to zero.

One could also mention that just seeing scantily clad girls can completely ruin Nebka's mood.

Yeah, that's an even bigger red flag than disliking successful people.

I thought you guys were just posting pictures here, but you ended up writing all sorts of things.

I have this friend, see. He was in a mental institution, but now he works and watches anime. Although, maybe he was doing the latter even before.

By answering these 24 questions, I achieved success, found myself, bought a house and a car, got married, and had children. I recommend it to everyone!

Who are you?
Write down a list of what’s important to you about life.

Who are you really?
What was important to you before other people told you what was important to you?

What’s your deepest, most secret desire?
You know it’s there. Just be honest and admit it. You’ll feel amazing… and free.

If you knew you couldn’t fail, what’s the benefit of not beginning?
Bet you can’t think of a good answer for this.

If not now, when?
The past is gone forever and the future is anything but guaranteed. What are you waiting for?

Who’s permission do you need?
You know you only need your own permission, but do you seek someone else to tell you it’s ok?

What’s stopping you?
If you haven’t started working towards what you truly want, something is.

Who or what is holding you back?
The only answer to this: you.

If you don’t know what you want, why on earth aren’t you trying to find out?
Unless you’re content to just drift through life, never knowing where you’re going, and never being truly fulfilled.

When you know what you truly want, will you actually do anything about it?
Most people ignore it or talk themselves out of doing it.

What’s important to you?
Make a list. Be honest with yourself.

What’s really important to you?
Seriously. Be honest. Otherwise this is pointless.

If you wrote a list of everything that’s important to you, would you even be on it?
If you’re not, is there a good reason for that?

If you don’t prioritize yourself, how will you ever be happy?
It’s not going to happen by accident.

What’s the excuse you use the most?
Would you tell your best friend to use that excuse?

When will you stop using your excuses?
Excuses stop you from getting what you truly want. If you’re happy with that, then keep using them.

Do you feel good when you know you’re using excuses?
I’m guessing you don’t. Just a hunch. And I bet you feel great when you make progress. Just saying.

Will you ever get what you want if you keep making excuses?
Make all the excuses you want. Just make sure you don’t wake up one day and finally admit that’s what you’ve been doing.

Why won’t you just be honest with yourself?
Lying to yourself is easy most of the time because we’re so practiced at it. But it’s not the right thing, and you know it. It might be painful to be honest right now in this moment, but it’s much more painful to lie to yourself forever.

How long can you go on doing what you’re doing?
6 months? 1 year? 5 years? If you don’t take action and do something different, nothing will change.

When you’re totally honest with yourself, what will happen?
Great things, right?

Do you choose comfort over happiness?
There’s a big difference. Find out what that difference means for you, and what you’re currently choosing.

If any of these have resonated, are you gonna make an excuse or actually do something about it?
The alternative is to sit there and do absolutely nothing different. Procrastinate. Get annoyed with yourself. Wish things were different. Even though things need to change. Even though you know you’re choosing comfort over happiness. But, let me ask you – what would the real you do?

And yes, I will note that there was indeed a certain degree of cynicism regarding more successful people – a defensive mechanism against self-destruction. But I still don't quite understand and share your dislike for those who have achieved everything through their own efforts.

There is no such thing as "achieved everything through their own efforts." Simply because there are many people who did the same, or even better, but achieved nothing. And someone just happened to be in the right place, at the right time, and "achieved" something. They got lucky at the right moment. And others didn't, that's all.

But you are wrong to think that people achieve everything only thanks to luck. There are a lot of people who cope with everything, overcoming a ton of crap on their own, because they have enough willpower (I wouldn't mind being able to not give up until victory...).

It's all thanks to luck. I'm not saying that they didn't do anything and everything just happened. I'm saying, again, that there are many people who did the same and achieved nothing.
And where did they get this willpower from?))) Did they achieve it themselves?)))
Well, they overcame it, and that's fine, but there's no need to bullshit about the fact that everyone can do it, you just need to try. Enjoy yourselves in your luxurious corner and don't act superior.

I read the article. The advice to see a psychiatrist is good, of course. But you already wrote that yourself. As for some other points, they are obvious things that I already understand, and I don't argue with them. But overall

Problems of the first world :smile26:

I hope that when I see a psychiatrist, he will call my model girlfriend so that she can fly in from France as soon as possible)))) Even unconsciously, they act superior with this kind of crap, oh my god...

One could also mention that just seeing scantily clad girls puts Nebka in a bad mood.

Well, you're exaggerating. Zero is my best mood when I can calmly work 8+ hours and not pay attention to anything. And they take it from -70 to -a lot.

Well, yes, this is even a much bigger red flag than dislike for successful people.

Can I do something about the people I see on the street in the summer? No. And with someone else who is not on the street? No. And with at least someone normal? No. And can I do something about the fact that I can't do anything? No, you are a poor loser. Hmm, indeed, a very deep problem.

Okay, let's stop wallowing in my self-pity. I'm already disgusted with myself. Thank you all for the moral support. At least somewhere I can vent normally.

Look, when I talked about "red flags," I didn't mean that one day you'd snap, grab a bat, and go around beating up random people. You mostly have self-aggression, so the only one you're willing to hurt is yourself =(

But in any case, we all love you, and we hope that you can overcome this difficult situation and not drive yourself into self-torture. To us, you're still a cool guy, no matter what.

Who are you?
Aslan.

Who are you really?
Vlad.

What’s your deepest, most secret desire?
To become a bun, because everyone loves them.

If you knew you couldn’t fail, what’s the benefit of not beginning?
The benefit might be in not doing something you'll later regret. Checkmate!

If not now, when?
Tomorrow)

Who’s permission do you need?
My mom's, of course.

What’s stopping you?
Well... it's too hot today, it's hard to concentrate.

Who or what is holding you back?
The heat.

If you don’t know what you want, why on earth aren’t you trying to find out?
But how should I look for it?

When you know what you truly want, will you actually do anything about it?
No, of course not, why would I?

What’s important to you?
Nothing, I'm a nihilist and a Jokir.

What’s really important to you?
Nothing.

If you wrote a list of everything that’s important to you, would you even be on it?
You won't believe it...

If you don’t prioritize yourself, how will you ever be happy?
Well, I buy myself food... how else can I prioritize myself....

What’s the excuse you use the most?
"It's not the right time to do it."

When will you stop using your excuses?
I don't know, but now is not the time to stop using them.

Do you feel good when you know you’re using excuses?
Of course, because it gives me a reason to do nothing.

Will you ever get what you want if you keep making excuses?
Do you think I need to stop making excuses and finally become a bun?...

Why won’t you just be honest with yourself?
I am honest with myself.

How long can you go on doing what you’re doing?
Are we talking about answering these questions? Because that's what I'm doing right now. Well, I don't know, maybe another 10 minutes and I'll definitely get bored.

When you’re totally honest with yourself, what will happen?
Suicide?

Do you choose comfort over happiness?
Comfort, because it makes me happy.

If any of these have resonated, are you gonna make an excuse or actually do something about it?
The alternative is to sit there and do absolutely nothing different. Procrastinate. Get annoyed with yourself. Wish things were different. Even though things need to change. Even though you know you’re choosing comfort over happiness. But, let me ask you – what would the real you do?
Aslan would write something stupid and ironic. Well, Vlad would probably do the same.

By answering these 24 questions, I achieved success, found myself, bought a house and a car, got married, and had children. I recommend it to everyone!

Your subordinates, watching the bank director spend all day reading motivational nonsense and answering some questions on the internet.

24 questions

I think there are 23...

I think there are 23 of them...

He probably deliberately removed the most important question so that no one would succeed.

But in any case, we all love you, and we hope that you can overcome this difficult situation and won't resort to self-torture. For us, you are still a great person.

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If it helps, complain as much as you want. Ultimately, you and only you decide what to do, and we can only wish you the best.

Become a bun, because everyone loves them.

Better to be rice.