Posts from Route Auto-translated

It's perfectly normal when it comes to this aspect of life, even if you're a rational person who likes to think things through, make plans, and so on.

And this gentleman is right!
Sometimes, it's precisely this irrational wildness that helps to get things in order in life, because everything in life happens in its own time.

Added 1 minute ago
Revan, have you tried thinking outside the box? Besides Japanese, Korean, and Chinese women, there are also Buryat, Nanai, Ulchi, and others in the world. What's wrong with them?

Different cultures. This will be a queen move, supporting a friendly pawn. That's exactly why I didn't follow yesterday's plan.

why do I, a supposedly reasonable young man who loves to analyze things, constantly do some kind of irrational madness?

you call THAT an irrational madness? heh ))

I don't see anything wrong with it, other than the fact that you didn't get enough sleep.
But you understood everything correctly - the chances of getting a response are slim. I don't know about dating sites, but Chinese people are extremely reluctant to communicate via email. Mostly they hang out in some kind of chats and video chats.

On the other hand, it will be something to remember. You'll appreciate it someday.

If only I knew at least one decent language back in 2017. I could have learned it in those 8 years...

I read Revan's long post, which turned out not to be that long. Well, what can I say? You thought your life was bleak? I have some bad news for you.

I need a person whom I would put first in my life, above all else, for whom I would gladly return home after a workday, and not think about the many ways I could end my life. For whom I would want to strive to become better, about whom I would want to care with exceptional sincerity in my heart and warmth in my soul.

Neira has already expressed her opinion on this matter very cautiously, and I will explain how things really are. You hope that love will fill your soul, give you a sense of completeness, that by finding love, your consciousness and attitude towards life will change, and you will find happiness, but this is not the case. Yes, mutual love – if it is love, and not infatuation – will indeed give you wings for about six months. But then those six months will pass, you will look around and realize that nothing has changed, you still live in the CIS, you still receive a low salary, and so on. Okay, let's say you moved to Korea and found a high-paying job (not an easy task for a newcomer in any country, in my opinion, but never mind), so you have a Korean girl at your fingertips, but those same six months will pass, and everything will become routine, boring work, health problems, only now you can't even hide in anime – because your love requires your attention, and you will be left alone in your personal hell again. And this was the best-case scenario of all possible ones. How many less successful scenarios are there? Very many. When you realize that the infatuation was fleeting. When you fell in love with an ideal, but found yourself next to an unknown and alien person. When she agreed, and then refused. When you found out that she was cheating. In short, to summarize briefly, I would recommend that you do what you love – reflect and ask yourself – do you need a relationship, or do you need your own vision of relationships that should resolve the conflicts in your soul? Because if it's the latter, then I can almost guarantee that relationships will not help you with this.

There is a high chance that the profile is fake. If not, there is a high chance that the user will no longer log in to their page. If they do log in, there is a high chance that they will simply not be interested.

Perhaps it seems this way to me because I am not a pickup artist, but any attempts at a relationship imply 90% failure for one reason or another. Therefore, experienced people rely on the number of attempts, not the quality. Like fishing with nets.

There is no salvation. Not in the arms of others, nor anywhere else (although some who have gone completely off the rails find it, but you have to go really far down that path, and it's unlikely to happen to you). It's all an illusion. But that doesn't mean you should stop trying (just not the way you started, it's too radical, what kind of gifts are you expecting right at the beginning? You're delusional) to make your life bearable (yes, bearable, I don't believe in all this "GOOD" and "HAPPY"), the way you would like it to be. So that later you can tell yourself that you did everything you could and you succeeded. And if you didn't succeed, then you can just end it all. If you want.

There is no hope for any of us.

With such an attitude, nothing good is likely to happen. It's better to idealize, romanticize, and live in anticipation of something good (in moderation, without rose-tinted glasses), rather than live in gloom, despondency, and constantly dwell on negative thoughts, because in that case, there really is no point, and you might even go crazy.

But that's not the case. After losing all hope, I found clarity in my vision of myself and my place in this world. Let go of desires, and you will let go of suffering.

It's better to idealize, romanticize, and live in anticipation of something good.

First, you idealize, romanticize, and live in anticipation of something good, and then you face reality. These kinds of people are usually weeded out. Personally, I'm against such things. But you also need to understand that the opposite extreme isn't great either. After all, good things and luck do happen. The chance isn't zero.

okay, let's say you moved to Korea and found a high-paying job (not an easy task for a foreigner in any country, in my opinion, but never mind), so you have a Korean girl, but

Here, you could end the story with a happy ending. But since our lives aren't movies, there would be a continuation. As an option, I would die from an excess of serotonin in my body.

Fortress has insightful comments in every post, I agree.

British scientists have discovered that the feelings of love and hate originate in similar areas of the brain. However, unlike hate, love significantly reduces the activity of brain areas responsible for reasoning and logical thinking.

.

This is where you can put an end to the story, a Happy End.

That's the catch, and the main challenge of life. It's not a Happy End; you still have to live for another 50-60 years well, in your case, maybe 5 years, no more :p, and during that time, your perception of what's happening will change significantly. You've hit the nail on the head here – in movies, books, and games, everything always ends at a happy wedding because that's when it seems like a "happy end." But in reality, everything continues and continues, going on and on...

North is full of wise words in every post, I agree.

Thank you...

It's better to idealize, romanticize, and live in anticipation of something good.

Is this the motto of the Arconians?