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I remember there was a discussion on the forum a long time ago, "what is your ideal guy/girl," where everyone wrote about how their ideal girls have big... hearts and how their ideal guys have a great... interest in beauty. Okay, jokes aside, we all get annoyed by something in our partner, and not just in our partner, but also in girls (guys) in general. Personally, besides the standard flaws, I'm most surprised by something else. Namely, the worldview of many girls, and in particular, their life goals. Many women these days believe that they must be successful, work, because housewives are just stupid hens, they should be in business or politics, then they are "smart" and successful women. And what surprises me is that girls want to become... shopkeepers, because that's exactly what it is! Not to create something with their own hands, not to be passionate about art, to draw, sing, do music, or just improve themselves, read (but not Nietzsche and Machiavelli, but, for example, Hugo), they just want to rake in money, they get into this disgusting industry, strive for great victories, value petty meanness, value subtle falseness and skillful bluff, and at the same time, they completely stop being women. And that's the worst thing, money should be earned by a man, even if he's a shopkeeper (okay, a businessman), he should cope with difficulties with honor, and most importantly, remain honest, otherwise his success is worthless. A girl should be morally better than a guy, she should understand art better, feel it more subtly, be more honest and kinder, but now it turns out to be the opposite.

This is the worst part; a man should be the one earning money, even if he's just a shopkeeper (or a businessman), he should handle difficulties with honor and, most importantly, remain honest; otherwise, his success is worthless.

I agree :)
Personally, I'm annoyed by bitches and hysterical women, and generally girls who make a fuss over every little thing.
I also don't understand those who get so worried, even excessively so, about a broken nail or a bad hairstyle :\.
In my opinion, a girl should be modest. If she has a husband/boyfriend, she should definitely not flirt or show attention to other men.
Also, I think women shouldn't work :), unless it's something like drawing, singing, or something along those lines :).
In principle, there's a lot more to say, but that's enough for now.

This is the worst thing; a man should be the one earning the money.

I sympathize; it seems you'll end up with a wife who likes to live off others....

A girl should be morally better than a guy; she should understand art better, have a more refined sense of it, be more honest and kinder, but now it seems to be the opposite.

Like Beauty and the Beast?))) I advise you to boost your self-esteem.

In my opinion, a girl should be modest. If she has a husband/boyfriend, she should never flirt or show attention to other men.
Also, I think women shouldn't work, unless it's something like drawing, singing, or something along those lines.

"Modest" – I agree with that. But the idea of not showing attention is nonsense. It shows that you are very jealous and want to put your significant other in a cage.

But if we're being serious, what kind of nonsense are you guys writing? What kind of household? What kind of singing? A girl should be natural!!! If she's a dumb blonde who only knows all the nearby beauty salons, always thinking about clothes or whatever else that type of woman thinks about? - In short, you get my point.

The main difference between a girl and a guy is that a girl (any girl) is more emotional (and emotionally vulnerable). They are prone to greater worries and so on (but don't go overboard; hysterics are not included here). This is one of the defining qualities of "femininity." THAT'S IT! A girl should be feminine. The main task of a guy is to protect his girl, support her, help her, be the foundation of her peace of mind in life. And what she does for work and so on is a secondary matter. Even a businesswoman can be just as light and vulnerable, gentle and sweet in everyday life, and it doesn't matter if she's a harsh Cerberus at work – the world is made up of masks!
And in general, all sorts of stereotypes are a very stupid thing. If two people are good together, their activities don't matter. In general, to love, asking permission from third parties... well, that's for cowards.
By the way, work also depends on character; if a guy wants to, he will work, and obligation is not always the reason.

In short, what I want to say is that neither sex has any flaws! And it can't. Some people may not like blondes, while others go crazy for them and consider all her flaws to be pluses – get it? Exactly, flaws are an exclusively subjective concept, and by the way, they MUST exist! An ideal, even if it exists (and it can probably be found), will get boring very quickly, unless, of course, you are so calculating that marriage is just a means for you to leave an inheritance or simply expand your business (a marriage of convenience).
Well, I've gone off on a tangent again...

I'll jot down a little about my wonderful ideal...:o
A sweet and tender girl (appearance is not important, just initially she should be attractive), primarily smart and interesting...mmm...unpredictable, but not too much, rather able to pleasantly surprise, understanding, affectionate, and possessing a certain charm (although this is also a relative concept).

I don't like men because of their general stupidity and ridiculous chauvinism. It's as if someone burned something on their forehead telling them they need to be that way. I don't like women because of the same stupidity and their acceptance of any "scraps" they are given. But of course, all of this is nonsense. These are just basic characteristics of various real guys and other elites. But what is the point of saying that "a girl should do this and that, and shouldn't be like this," and a man should "do this and that, and only this way!"? Everyone says that someone owes something to someone else, but it's unclear who and why. No one is better or worse. No one owes anything to anyone, and everyone has the right to be who they want to be. However, there aren't many such people. This is just my opinion.

This suggests that you are very jealous.

As unfortunate as it may be, you are right.

If she's a dumb blonde who only knows all the nearby beauty salons, constantly thinking about clothes or whatever else that type of woman thinks about?

I also don't understand people (because it's not just girls who do this :D) who like to go shopping, constantly run to beauty salons, etc.
ZYbr, the point is that we are discussing the downsides. Some people may like it, while others may not :).

Beauty and the Beast, perhaps?))) I suggest you boost your self-esteem.

Well, firstly, it's not that contrasting, and secondly, I wasn't talking about myself. I would be incredibly happy if my girlfriend shared my principles and aspirations.
It's just that "business" is a dirty business, and it should be handled by a man.

I feel sorry for you; it seems you'll end up with a woman who loves to freeload....

Maybe that's exactly what I think because I've never thought about a long-term family life, but no one is stopping women from working; they just choose fields where it would be better for them to just sit around. I know many women who earn a living with their own hands while staying at home, and in general, if a woman has a decent profession that she enjoys, then no one is stopping her from doing anything.

That businesswoman can also be a gentle and vulnerable, meek, and sweet person in everyday life, and it doesn't matter if she's a ruthless Cerberus at work.

Let her be a Cerberus or sweet; I don't care, but have you ever seen an honest merchant?
Virtue, humanity, fairness, loyalty – for many of them, these are just "eternal" values. And when I say loyalty, I mean it in a broad sense, not in the way jealous people understand it.

I believe that a woman shouldn't be a housewife and live off a man. In that case, she's just an accessory to the apartment, someone who cleans and cooks, and who you occasionally have sex with. Someone you take to restaurants, ice skating, and the movies. Yes, there's love, elevated feelings, and all that, but they fade away. And that's when, after a few years of living together, your sex life dwindles, your great love passes, and gives way to the mundane. She puts less and less effort into household chores, indulges in luxury, gains weight, and has nothing to do at home. She spends all her time watching TV and talking on the phone. She starts getting upset over any little thing. She furtively rummages through your phone, looking for suspicious numbers and messages. She searches for heresy and betrayal. She makes a fuss if you're even a little late from work. You argue more and more often over trivial things, like socks scattered around, supposedly unwashed feet, dirty knives lying on the table. I'm not saying that it's all her fault, not at all. But following the above, I believe that she should work. And working in business... what's wrong with that? Sooner or later, most businesswomen give it up and dedicate themselves to family and children. Although, again, I don't think that's the best option. Men should wear the pants. A woman's behavior is indeed very cyclical, depending on her menstrual cycle, and that's why her moods change irrationally.

With curiosity and even pride, I can note that I have not deviated from my sexist, chauvinistic views over time, but rather have become even more entrenched in them.

I don't find any flaws in girls and women. They are all just great, especially those with whom I've been lucky enough to communicate recently. But I almost always can't stand my sister; I won't say why! Unfortunately, there were two TPs in school, and there were two dimwits at my previous job; I simply hated them, and even now, when I remember them, I just want to vomit. Ugh... :( And there was also one girl in college who was somewhat similar to a TP. I mostly didn't like her because, taking advantage of the fact that she was female, she always tried to cut in line and submit her work.

With curiosity and even pride, I can say that I haven't deviated from my sexist, chauvinistic views over time, but rather have strengthened them.

Allow me to disagree with your views. There are basic natural predispositions. Because of them, men have traditionally been providers, so nature has endowed them with a predisposition to develop a competitive spirit and a provider's spirit (although predisposition doesn't always mean they will be the best provider, but it will be easier for them to do it; they won't have to go against the grain to succeed in this). And women, on the other hand, are endowed with a predisposition for routine work (they cope with it much better, while men quickly lose interest), for work that would "bring to perfection" what the man has provided. Because this is also very important, even if it's not obvious that it's more important. So, I'm in favor of a traditional way of life.

Interesting topic, but I can’t name the downsides of the opposite sex because: a) For me, there is no longer a division into male and female; in the “pack” where I live, you often find women who are typical leaders, and men who are lazy. Nevertheless, you can’t lump everyone together. b) Every person is an individual and can possess both masculine and feminine traits. c) What is a minus for one person can be a plus for another. Subjective For me, the main drawbacks in both are: Cowardice, unreliability, and the widespread prevalence of lies.

b) For some, it's a disadvantage, but for others, it's an advantage.

I completely agree; you can't talk about disadvantages because, in one way or another, any quality, even if it seems negative, can be turned into something positive.

nature has endowed women with a predisposition for routine work (they handle it much better, while men quickly lose interest)

I am a man.

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Wet dreams.