Семья и HEROES lll — Tournament History

Registered: 9/1/2010

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#1 1/25/2014 9:46 AM UTC

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Hi everyone. I just haven't seen a similar topic on the forum before (maybe it exists, if so, please provide a link). I think this is the most pressing question: How much time? When? And how to do it without harming the family? I've been holding it in, so I decided to write. I'm very interested in the opinions of "dads" who are over 30, have families, and find enough time for their favorite game. HOW DO YOU DO IT?! :confused:
How much time can you devote to your favorite game? I spend 3-4 evenings a week, 5-6 hours each time. Probably, that's too much. My wife and I have been married for 2 years, and we have a daughter:smile36: she's 11 months old today:o (this is an age when children start walking, everything interests them, they need to tidy up everywhere - "their own way":D) and we constantly argue about it (she says I don't spend enough time with the family, I don't devote enough time to the child, she also wants a laptop, etc.). Share how you deal with this situation. It often happens that I can't fully concentrate on the game because I get distracted, and because of this, I've lost more than one game. And during this time, I've been on the resource for so long that it's time I learned to play Heroes, but the way I play is sad. :(
Thank you for your attention. I'm waiting for comments. :smile29:
P.S. By the way, here's a link to VKontakte, my wife and gold https://vk.com/id16561446

Не шукайте краще, а шукайте своє. Адже краще не завжди стане твоїм, зате своє - завжди краще !

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#2 1/25/2014 10:25 AM UTC

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and we constantly argue because of it (that I don't spend enough time with the family, I don't dedicate enough time to the child, I also need a laptop, etc.).

The same problem – I've already stopped playing matches outside of tournaments. Heroes used to take up a lot of time; now, I play a maximum of 1 match per month – sometimes more, if there's an active tournament.
I set up Wi-Fi at home and at the dacha, and put my wife on a laptop – I thought the problem would solve itself. Like, I'm playing Heroes, and she's doing her own things on the laptop – but that didn't happen!!! Even if I don't interfere with her browsing the internet, I usually come to bed after a match around midnight, which is also a reason for dissatisfaction... smile51:
The only option is to do what they do in Odessa: I play Heroes, and my wife is on the beach with a book :D

Registered: 9/23/2012

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#3 1/25/2014 2:17 PM UTC

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I think completely quitting Heroes wouldn't be a good idea. It's better to reduce the playtime to 1 game per week. This will allow you to participate, albeit with some difficulty, in 2 tournaments simultaneously. With mandatory breaks in winter and summer, you'll get 5-6 tournaments per year. You just need to decide which competitions are important to you.
Regarding the quality of your gameplay, I can suggest doing a stream with commentary; it has a very positive effect on your skill. I would have done it a long time ago, but my laptop can't handle it.
Your gold is amazing :)

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Registered: 3/18/2008

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#4 1/25/2014 2:37 PM UTC

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It would be a good idea to do an interview with Stinger – to find out how he still manages to do it :D

Даже если вас съели - у вас два выхода:smile19:

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Registered: 3/13/2009

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#5 1/25/2014 3:06 PM UTC

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I used to play both at work and at home, but now I have a lot of work, so I play rarely. And my wife is unhappy when I spend too much time playing at home – I don’t dedicate enough time to her and our son. So, I have to play in short bursts, without much focus, and the quality of my gameplay suffers. But what can I do? Family is more important after all. Besides, I also go to the gym two or three times a week, so I only have a couple of evenings a week to play, plus some time on weekends. I’ve decided to sign up for fewer tournaments for now, and we’ll see how it goes.

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#6 1/25/2014 4:00 PM UTC

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Actually, the issue isn't about the heroes, but about the relationship or the status. The first scenario is when you can agree on something with your wife, keep your word and time, and there will be time for both the game and the family. The second scenario is when you are the head of the family, and there's not much to discuss. I think all other scenarios are clear (for married people) – in this case, the heroes are doomed to try to play stealthily, while she's not yelling, while she's not around, etc.

Хаос - это порядок, которым сложнее управлять.

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Registered: 9/1/2010

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#7 1/25/2014 4:29 PM UTC

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Alone

Right now, the maximum is 1 game per month – sometimes more, if it's an active part of the tournament.

This is certainly a shame... :(

Roger DAltavilla

It would be better to reduce the playtime to 1 game per week.

I was thinking about that, thanks for the advice. After the current phase, I was thinking of reducing it to 2 games per week. 1 seems a bit too little.

Javdet

It would be appropriate to do an interview with Stinger – how he still manages to do it :D

That would be interesting... :rolleyes:

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Piterius

Actually, the issue isn't about the heroes, but about the relationship or the status. The first option is when you can agree on something with your wife, keep your word, and there will be time for both the game and the family. The second option is when you are the head of the family; there's not much to discuss. I think the rest of the options are clear (for those who are married) – in this case, the heroes are doomed to try to play secretly, while she's not yelling, while she's not around, etc.

You're right about that. In my case, the first option applies. :) Because I can't call myself the head of the family, but I'm not going to give in either (that's why we're constantly arguing:smile13:).

Не шукайте краще, а шукайте своє. Адже краще не завжди стане твоїм, зате своє - завжди краще !

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#8 1/25/2014 4:31 PM UTC

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Piterius

There's not much to discuss here.

Good job!

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За то что нейтралы не бегают за единичкой, для меня это уже стоит того

Registered: 3/14/2009

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#9 1/25/2014 4:53 PM UTC

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You can also hire/persuade a nanny, grandmother, or grandfather to babysit while you play.

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#10 1/25/2014 5:33 PM UTC

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In reality, it's just a matter of prioritizing what's important in life.

Registered: 11/23/2007

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#11 1/25/2014 7:22 PM UTC

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I'm in the same situation.
We even made an agreement: I only play on Friday evenings and weekends (not every time). But my wife didn't keep her word even after that - women are insatiable :)
So, I started trying to play shorter games; maps from M200 are best for this. They're quick and dynamic.
And I play less often, that's true. Although I miss it, family is still more important!

Дипломатия - искусство говорить собаке "хорошая собачка" до тех пор пока не найдешь подходящую палку.

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#12 1/25/2014 8:31 PM UTC

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Dirty_Player

Actually, it's just a matter of prioritizing what's important in life.

For many, including myself, Heroes is a leisure activity. And I don't want to sit in front of the TV, where there's always commercials, and watch "Dom2," or some other nonsense (like "Weighted and Happy," "Happy and Not Weighted," "Not Weighted and Not Happy") :D

Не шукайте краще, а шукайте своє. Адже краще не завжди стане твоїм, зате своє - завжди краще !

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#13 1/26/2014 8:34 AM UTC

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Hi everyone! So, here's the story: I have three children – a son who is 13, and two daughters, 10 and 2 years old! I have a higher education in aviation, which, unfortunately, is not very useful in this country, so I've been making a living with odd jobs and occasional poker winnings for a while now :D! Want to play Heroes? Ask me! I'll tell you! As we all know, people get used to everything, which means that any man, I repeat, any man, is capable of adapting to any woman and any circumstances. Of course, experience is the son of difficult mistakes :D, anything can happen, but the main thing is to be sensitive and gentle to your women, mothers-in-law, and children :D, and they will forgive you everything! For example, when playing Heroes during a long turn, I know who takes a long time, it's a kind of strategy, go and give your wife a foot or back massage, etc., and while you're massaging her, it's perfectly acceptable to think about how you're going to deal with, punish :D your opponent! Divide and conquer, damn it! Children are not an obstacle either; come up with an interesting game, and if you have many children, take the youngest one in your arms and play with her; your wife will be delighted to see you being a good dad, trust me! Heroes is not Starcraft; it allows you to do all of this :D! During the game, you can tell your wife an interesting story, a fresh joke, or something about the heroes themselves; although it's unlikely, she might get interested in them :D. Be responsive, flexible, and wise, and you will have happiness and time for your favorite game! How! :)

Каждое поражение-навоз успеха!Герои как жизнь: непредсказуемы как городская маршрутка ,капризны как наши женщины,увлекательны как рыбалка в период нереста ,коварны и отвратительны если мышкой движет слюнявый читер! всё в них есть и это.......

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Registered: 10/30/2008

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#14 1/26/2014 9:10 AM UTC

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wariator

Hello everyone! So, here's the story: I have three children – a son who is 13 years old, and two daughters, 10 and 2 years old! I have a higher education in aviation, which is useless in this country, so I've been making a living doing odd jobs and playing poker:D! Want to play Heroes? Ask me:) Here's the thing: as we all know, people get used to everything, so any man, I repeat, any man, is capable of adapting to any woman and any circumstances. Of course, experience is the son of difficult mistakes:D, anything can happen, but the main thing is to be sensitive and gentle to your women, mothers-in-law, and children:D, and they will forgive you everything! For example, while playing Heroes during a long turn, I know who takes a long time, let's say, to make a move, go and give your wife a foot or back massage, etc. And while you're massaging her, it's perfectly acceptable to think about how you're going to deal with and punish:D your opponent! Divide and conquer, damn it! Children are not an obstacle either; come up with an interesting game, and if you have many children, take the youngest one in your arms and play with her; your wife will be delighted to see you being a good dad, trust me! Heroes is not Starcraft; it allows you to do all of this:D! During the game, you can tell your wife an interesting story, a fresh joke, or something about the heroes themselves; although it's unlikely, she might get interested in them:D. Be responsive, flexible, and wise, and you will have happiness and time for your favorite game! How!:)

Learn, damn it, from a father with many children:D
PS I still managed to get you to tell a story ;)

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