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Ugh, I'm being such a jerk with my responses. Sorry if I offended anyone.

That's fair, but my message wasn't about that... And happiness isn't just about hormone levels either; how else do you explain inexplicable joy? After all, dopamine and serotonin are also correlated with health, and health is crap.

Now I have a feeling that I understood your post correctly the first time.

Happiness is, in principle, a subjective thing. For some, achieving it requires fame, wealth, good looks, a great body, and an ideal relationship with a suitable partner (love, etc.). For others, it's enough to drink a bottle of vodka in the evening, ignoring the pain in their dying liver, and lie down next to a pathetic alcoholic or a mentally unstable convict covered in tattoos, who is ready to beat up both "the second half" and their offspring (well, for some, happiness is their own personal army of children, by the way).

In general, I'm getting at the fact that if a person doesn't get in life what they consider important and necessary, they are unlikely to consider themselves happy. And it's good if they manage to achieve at least some of what they want... But those who fail to achieve any of their goals can hardly be called happy, even if they have a visually decent background in the form of kind, loving parents (although, often, it is their upbringing that is the cause of all the problems), a well-paid (but hated) job, and even good health (which can be easily ruined due to the same nervous strain). Here, the words "don't be sad" won't help; what's needed is an awareness that there are problems that hinder progress, and the help of a good specialist. And if physical health is also poor, then the help of a good doctor is needed (and in the CIS countries, as with good psychologists, it is difficult to find such).

That was a rhetorical question.
Okay, got it, now it's clear what you meant. But I still think that "Don't be sad and be happy" is not the best way to offer support.

Happiness is, in principle, a subjective thing. For some, achieving it requires fame, wealth, good looks, a great body, and an ideal relationship with a suitable partner (love, etc.), while for others, it's enough to down a bottle of vodka in the evening, ignoring the pain in their failing liver, and lie down next to a pathetic drunk or a mentally unstable convict covered in tattoos, who is ready to beat up both the "second half" and their offspring (well, for some, happiness is having their own personal army of children).

Well... I think many will agree with you, but not me. The examples are good, by the way, but they don't speak to the subjectivity of happiness, but rather the opposite – that it is a more complex and fundamental concept than satisfying one's own needs. And we need to look for other differences between a rich but unhappy person and a poor alcoholic with an army of children – unless the latter is truly happy, and not one of those who secretly and openly hates the whole world, and alcohol is just a way to quickly escape from reality, avoiding contact with his hated wife and children (and for some reason, the latter picture seems more realistic, but anything can happen, so who knows?).

Beautiful hopes and my dreams
Only brought me down.
And now I surrender, the heights of heaven
I never knew...

He's even trolling with his signature...

Just don't be sad.

When you share your problems with someone, or someone shares theirs with you.

There was a talented person on HeroesWorld, but he was shit on, and since then his talent has been rotting away in the damp ground...

When I took a closer look at Cillian Murphy's face.

I remembered that meme about Billie Eilish being Cillian Murphy in a wig. There was a picture too, but I'm too lazy to look for it.

Perhaps there is some similarity in the dead, fish-like eyes.