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There's nothing wrong with that.

Guys, don't fall for this crap.

Write something else, something that isn't just a burden, but a pleasant bonus.

If I mentioned the term "single parent" above, then it should be obvious that I don't consider that a "pleasant bonus."
Actually, if two people love each other and the partner doesn't hide the fact that they have children from a previous relationship (or an unknown relationship – how many single mothers are there in our country who can't identify the father from a list of 10+ men?), then why not? Although, perhaps in the case of women who don't even know who they got pregnant by, it's better to avoid it altogether.
And if we take as an example a girl or a guy (men can also be single fathers, by the way, and the wife doesn't even have to die in the process, lol), with normal personality and parenting traits. And the reason for the divorce – as an option – is that they realized that their personalities don't match (some people need a few years to figure this out, while others need a lifetime, lol). And this potential single parent meets a perfectly good person, who, surprisingly, is okay with the single parent's personality and isn't particularly bothered by the fact that they have a child, because they are genuinely comfortable with this single parent (I mean psychological comfort, not moving in and freeloading). So, if everyone is happy and no one is cheating, and the child is also growing up to be a well-adjusted person in such comfortable conditions, then why not?
In short, I'm saying that everyone chooses for themselves whether to agree to a partner with a "baggage" or not. But it doesn't smell like any sexual deviance. At most, it's a desire to take on extra trouble for the sake of a loved one.

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MentIf we spend an hour trying on shoes in a supermarket, checking if they're comfortable, if they pinch anywhere, if the heel rubs, then it's even more important here.

You have interesting analogies.As strange as it may seem, there is indeed a grain of truth in Ment's words. You need to approach the choice of a person with whom you plan to spend most of your life and, possibly, raise children together, very thoughtfully and consciously.
Otherwise, you first marry someone who happens to be available, and then there are scandals, cheating, and cries of: "I wasted the best years of my life on you!!11" – and then you end up with a single parent... Just like with bad shoes that rub!

But there's nothing here that suggests any kind of sexual deviance.

This term hasn't been used in the sense of sexual deviance lately. And frankly, I don't care what anyone does. I'm just asking Heroes of Might and Magic players not to do things like that. Although, considering the results of the test with characters from Robin Hood...

In my opinion, the most important thing in situations involving surrogate motherhood is to avoid any legal entanglement with the child or children. Otherwise, if everyone is happy, why not?

Do whatever you want. Just don't post about it on the forums.

I am willing to marry a woman with children from a previous marriage, provided that she buys me a separate apartment and covers all expenses.

While you're conducting expeditions in the World of Xeen, I hope?

I'm willing to marry a woman with children from a previous marriage, provided she buys me a separate apartment and pays for all expenses.

That would make for a great description on Badu.

Go on expeditions, fly to Japan, buy figurines, etc. ... Well, sometimes I would have to spend time with my wife and her children, but that's no worse than working at a factory, either physically or mentally.

And if his wife is Asian too...

When you go to work, the color of the wallpaper in the office isn't that important.

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If we spend an hour trying on shoes in a supermarket, checking if they're comfortable, if they pinch anywhere, or if the heel rubs, then it's even more important here.

I was going to write about my experience "choosing shoes" in stores because I have feet of different sizes, but maybe it's better not to mention it... But I don't even know what that says about me in the context of your allegory...

Now that’s the stance of a true, confident, and correct alpha male. Every Robin has a lot to learn from this!

I was going to write about my experience “shopping for shoes” in stores because I have feet of different sizes, but I guess it’s better not to mention it… But I don’t even know what that says about me in the context of your allegory…

It’s about the fact that there are people for whom no store-bought shoes will ever fit, no matter how hard you try.

That's the attitude of a true, confident, and correct alpha male. All those Robyns should learn from him!

Actually, the Sheriff is the alpha there.

If he were the alpha, he wouldn't have released Robin after the deal with Mary...

Well, if we take your idea a bit further, we can conclude that being a "breadwinner," especially in our time, is essentially the same as being the cuckold you described, because you sacrifice disproportionate emotional, financial, and time resources just to put a big checkmark on your life and get nothing in return, and even your own child won't thank you for bringing them into the same world where you suffered. Whether there's a relationship or not is a secondary matter.

If he were an alpha, he wouldn't have let Robin go after the deal with Mary...

A character from my experience would definitely act that way.