If we're talking about the Tribes of the East expansion, which I'm currently playing, the most difficult mission is capturing the Holy Flame. You build up an army, the danger level is very low, but a catapult with fire arrows just tears you apart.
I'm playing through it for the second time, and I haven't reached it yet.
The second Orcish mission, where you have to defend the second city for 6 weeks against armies that are "no match," is definitely more difficult.