I have an idea. Introduce a yellow timer in the game – a time during which the player was thinking and didn't make a move.
You play, write a report, and mutually "express your opinions."
To avoid anything personal and without going into details, just a "3." Otherwise, there will be "post-match analyses," excuses, and clarifications. I think that if a person has this as a system, the assessment will quickly drop to around a "three."
"Сущность войны — обман. Искусный должен изображать неумелость. При готовности атаковать демонстрируй подчинение. Когда ты близок — кажись далёким, но когда ты очень далеко — притворись, будто ты рядом."