1. Heroes of Might and Magic III: The Shadow of Death 3.2 (4.0) + HDmod (any stable version with password-protected save files) or by mutual agreement between the players.
The turn time for each map is different and can be changed by mutual agreement.
If the base version simply stated SoD 3.2 (without the mod), then the rule about additional files and programs would apply:
The player using these programs and files is responsible for all bugs that arise from their use.
P.S. Agree that it would be silly if, when playing without a mod, one player's Castle turned gray, and the other player said, "That's your problem, keep playing without a Castle." That's absurd.