What are you talking about? Don't the people you know play? In fact, most people play on large maps for a grand endgame, to fully upgrade and utilize all possibilities... This is where the balance ends, and mages dominate.
In general, I don't agree that the Wizards are the strongest... They are definitely the most unpredictable because they depend heavily on resources and what appears in the Guild of Mages (which allows you to develop any school). Once, I played with a friend, I was Necromancer, and he was Wizards. In the final, I was surprised because he had Darkness... And he did well, although I still managed to win thanks to my army. But another time, it might be extremely unlucky; it varies from game to game.