because it's better to spend an extra half hour once a month than to play with 5-second turns.

As you yourself said, don't lump everyone together. For example, in my case, there are more games, and I try to choose stronger opponents, and quite often such finals result... so the issue is quite relevant.

Regarding the "The" map, I don't even know how to talk to this client anymore. No one supports him, but he firmly believes that he is right, and he doesn't understand the difference between a mirror map and a regular map (and why should he even bother understanding it when, in his opinion, everything has its own purpose). You basically need to improve as a player before making such statements... right now, you're not competent.