Achieve something for yourself, both materially and spiritually.
I repeat, I'm not talking about family. I'm talking about a man and a woman as INDIVIDUALS. And you, in turn, are telling me exactly the words that most wives use to nag their husbands. Like, come back from space, you idiot, here is our life, HERE IT IS, we need food and warmth, not the infinity of the Universe!
Where is it that a man is judged by his woman?!
This is an unwritten rule, which you, due to your youth, may not understand. For example, if you live in a family and leave the house in clean, polished shoes, an ironed shirt with a tie, and walk with a confident stride, etc., THIS tells the public about the well-being in the family! If you are without a woman, it doesn't say anything, and even suggests that you are a poor fellow who has been cleaning and polishing since early morning, even if you can do everything, but there is no woman, and that is important, you will understand this in time.
Of course, there may be situations where a man leaves the house looking handsome, despite a bad atmosphere at home, but gradually (if this is a systemic pattern), over the years, this is neutralized, and he turns into an ordinary poor fellow.
Do you judge men you know by the kind of wives they have?
Nonsense... A normal man judges another by his achievements, social status, etc., his wife can be anyone, whoever he chooses, it's his business. But for women, it's the opposite.
One is married to an oligarch, in the eyes of other women, she is the oligarch herself. And the other is married to a drunkard, Vasya, and who is she compared to the oligarch's wife?!))