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Let me start by saying that love is not a feeling, but a state of the soul (not the body). Love in itself does not carry negative emotions; it is never selfish. Now, let me explain: if a person loves, they will only wish good things for the object of their affection. If the loving person learns something bad about the person they love, then other feelings come into play, which introduce doubts, anxieties, and so on.

First, you say that love is selfless, and then you bring in some desires. What do desires have to do with it? Desires are desires, products of the mind. So, a person loves, and they love. Does their love change depending on whether they receive a response or not? Thoughts may arise, again, desires, but can the feeling itself change so easily depending on whether or not they are loved in return? I don't think so. Otherwise, that would be selfishness. And since true love is selfless, i.e., it requires NOTHING in return, how can you talk about the degree of love depending on the reaction? Where does this even come from?

All human feelings are personal perceptions as a result of something or just like that :)
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In general, you can be in love, but building love is much more difficult.
And now, specifically: Love is not love if it receives unrequited love in return; unrequited love is just infatuation.
Love is a spiritual feeling and cannot happen, for example, with an object that is dear to us (not spiritual).

Can love be built? Is it a house? Maybe you can share a plan or blueprints? I've always thought that you can build relationships (based on love, for example), since this is a product of the mind in a sense. And how do you manage your feelings (emotions)? You either feel something or you don't. These are products of the soul. It always wants something, and always wants what is right. A feeling, an emotion is a manifestation of the soul's desire, its state. It is incorrect to talk about the OBJECT of these desires, because they relate only to the soul.
For example: a person is sick. There is a person, there is their state. It is incorrect to say that if they have one disease, caused by certain reasons, etc., they are sick, and if they have another, they are not.
A person (soul) experiences joy, love, sadness... What does this have to do with anyone or anything?