Patience isn't required here; quite the opposite, emotional intensity is.

An aggressive style is certainly correct and appropriate... as long as you don't overdo it and get tilted. :) When tilted, any such "correct" aggressor risks sinking to the level of the most uptight player, or even lower.
I hope that now everyone has offended each other to roughly the same degree and can finally calm down. Why don't you pick on me instead? Look at the beautiful, vibrant post Volodya wrote :D And I'm going to go reread Moshman, I think.