That's the mistake – I'm hinting again that you can't take 10 reductions out of context... you need to see the whole picture... if it bothers you too much, I can send you a screenshot in a private message, but I hope you can figure it out yourself.
Actually, advice isn't needed here; he got himself into this mess, so let him deal with it.
I don't think he would ask you for help or listen to you in another situation.
P.S. Don't play with words like "start with yourself" or "it speaks volumes about you"... if you're going to call someone a "груздь" (a type of mushroom), finish the phrase in the future.
Regarding the "flies" – I didn't single anyone out; it was an abstract representation of what was happening.
It's not good to brag about good deeds (c) Snezhanna Denisovna, Voronezh.

Барон "Vampires"
Отдай свои прошлые сны,
В сомненьях себя обрети,
В бешеном танце душа кружится!
Не думай, что будет потом,
Здесь и сейчас мы живем,
Стань хоть на миг сам собой, слышишь!