I sympathize. I know this feeling – being in a group where people show no respect, understanding, or compassion, both from my own experience (fortunately, I haven't had to be in such environments often, but it's something you remember well) and from observing others.
However, I've been convinced many times that people who are inclined towards introversion and individualism often surpass typical extroverts in moral and intellectual qualities. Although their lives are generally more difficult.
And I say this not as a fact, but simply sharing my observations, so I probably won't try to change the opinion of those who disagree.
Bow down and hear our cry,
Our earthly rulers falter,
Our people drift and die,
The walls of gold entomb us,
The swords of scorn divide,
Take not thy thunder from us,
Take away our pride.
G.K. Chesterton: English Hymnal