Regarding the scenario where the enemy attacks first...
It's unlikely they'll do so if they have a large army. However, if it happens, the mage could lose most of their army...
BUT... if they win, they'll gain a huge amount of experience and possibly a Skill Point.
However, against an Orc with Sympathy and Counterspell, another mage's Skill Point will be useless. It simply won't allow them to cast spells. In a long game, they should have enough mana for almost the entire battle. However, in my Zehir's case with such a build, the mana ran out during a battle with Biara. But by that time, Biara had almost nothing left of her army.