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Siver, do you think I haven't tried?
They just start yelling in their idiotic, military-like manner, and the desire to tear your vocal cords by shouting them down, or to burst your eardrum while waiting for the outburst to end, is more trouble than it's worth.

In patience, you will find strength, young Padawan;). Since my mother responds to me in much the same way, I can suggest my tactic. State your arguments to them in an absolutely calm voice, logically proving the need to change something. They start yelling. Wait for the outburst to end; it's much easier than it seems at first glance. After that, in the same calm voice, explain the invalidity of the "arguments" they expressed during the outburst (this will most likely not be difficult). Wait for a new outburst. Repeat this n number of times until you achieve your goal. Sooner or later, you will either force them to change everything, or you will drive them completely crazy. The latter is more likely than the former. After some time (about a week), start this conversation again and go through the cycle again. If it doesn't work, don't despair; I'm almost certain that by the third conversation, they won't yell – they won't want to feel like idiots. The main thing is not to lose your temper, and speak calmly and logically. This tactic has been tested on my own parents.