We’ve turned into a Hive, things are getting serious.

Oh, come on. There are many Karlans whose height doesn't prevent them from attracting partners and living quite happily. Some are so bold that you could envy their courage and audacity. So, it's not so much about height, but about what's in their head: how a person perceives themselves, what kind of environment they grew up in, how they behave in society, and so on.

If that were true, you would often see couples on the street where the man is shorter than the woman. But there are very few of them. Everything is shaped by personal experience. The personal experience of most Karlans is that no one takes them seriously, including in all other areas of life.

To be fair, a very tall girl can also fall into this kind of trap, as she will only look at guys taller than 190 due to stereotypes, among whom she won't find a suitable one, and ignore normal guys around 170-180. And then a stereotype will form that "all men are jerks," although in reality, she saw jerks in that narrow sample that she herself set. Here, too, you need to work on your mindset.

I disagree that she set anything. This is her basic programming. It's just that this programming has been turned up to the maximum in the last 10-15 years, due to the fact that women have completely stopped depending on men. That's why they mainly choose based on appearance. Men do the same. Only they choose 2D. Well, how can you call it a choice when it's a choice between an alligator and 2D...
During all the time spent in dating apps, I haven't received a single like from women taller than me. To be fair, I saw such women maybe 5 times.