We’ve turned into a Hive, things are getting serious.

Acceptance – willingness to discuss and work on fixing things.

But how do you fix the fact that he's "normal," while she spent her youth hanging out with elves and only paid attention to him closer to 30? She tolerates that he's "normal," and he tolerates that she hung out with elves.

Of course, with a generous "elf." And if during a meeting with this very elf, it turns out that the girl was wearing a complete set of sexy lingerie, then everything was planned by someone else, and long before this meeting 🙃

Nothing was planned for him; that's just how it is. He's just an elf. That's why she chose him for the meeting, not the "normal" guy.

A "normal" guy, who, in my understanding, is not a gloomy autist, if he has brains, can turn out to be a better lover than the "elf."

I don't know, I doubt it.

And some so-called "elves" are so terrible in bed that girls experience psychological trauma because of them and realize that sex is only needed with men.

It's all about experience. A "normal" guy doesn't have any experience and won't have any until he's 30, while an elf starts training around 15. Older women are ready to teach him, and he practices on his peers. Therefore, such an elf, as you described, is a very rare case, or he's just young.