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I haven't read the thread with this much interest in a long time.

Yes, of course, Nebo and Ney have shifted from general ideas to specific examples. But there was still plenty of general discussion.

Neyko

In the last century, before all these dating sites, ads, and social networks, people found partners and got married not based on appearance or social activities, but because relatives introduced them to someone. And usually, it was an "approved by parents" arranged marriage, and there was no talk of love. Especially in villages. The opinions of the girl and the guy mattered little, yes. And there were no divorces then not because the families were ideal, but because it was condemned by the church/society. And they tolerated adulterers, drunkards, and domestic tyrants.

Even in the time of our parents, a certain calculation was involved. And they looked not at appearance, but at what family they came from and whether the second half was suitable in terms of social status. And going against the will of parents was not easy.
Although dating through correspondence, random phone calls, and newspaper ads already existed. But it was dangerous, and you could run into some kind of inadequate person.

Now, there is almost complete freedom of choice in the market. If we are talking about adequately raised people, parents no longer influence the choice, as well as social status (yes, there are still mothers who raise mama's boys/girls and instill in them that there is no person worthy of their child). And it turned out that with this freedom, a kind of gateway to hell opened. Here you have divorce statistics because people realized that they can leave bad spouses. And girls are now actively selling their bodies on OnlyFans "to please normies" (in fact, to profit from them). And crowds of lonely people.

These are very good, interesting reflections.
But I'll add another thought. In the past, matchmakers were common. And in fact, they didn't just find a suitable partner, but also visited the homes of both the groom and the bride. They looked at how the household and lifestyle were organized in the families. And often they chose couples whose lifestyles were similar. It was much easier for them to live together, not to quarrel over everyday things.
Now matchmakers have disappeared, we have freedom, and we just randomly poke at a person, try, make mistakes. Divorces. Yes, unfortunately, any good girl will not suit any good guy. Compatibility is highly desirable in both life position and lifestyle.
I don't disagree with what Ney wrote above, I'm just adding another aspect.

Nebo

At the moment, it is most difficult for normie men under 30 to enter into any kind of relationship. And only after 30 do they have at least some chances.

I wouldn't say so. Zoomers don't want relationships at all; we millennials are a little better, but everyone is maturing later. We are often to blame ourselves. Video games, online forums, and other distractions until the age of 30. First, a normal woman like Kosha doesn't meet enough mature men, and by the time they mature, "it's already too late."

Nebo

According to statistics, in apps and on dating sites, men like 50% of women, and women, at BEST, like 20%, and according to some data, 7%. So, women have high standards. But it's not surprising, given biology.

This is a good statistic, by the way; I believe it. In general, 80% of women are attractive to a man, and 20% of men are attractive to a woman. And this is an absolutely normal biological situation; women make the selection in our human species.

There is an off-topic question, since we're on the subject. Not for drawing conclusions from this topic, just for fun.
Kosha, Neyra, if a photograph of Dmitry Nagiyev were submitted to the stuffed animal competition, how many points would you give it?

В тихой однообразной жизни всегда так бывает: каждый отдельный день бесконечно долог, но месяцы и годы мчатся с непостижимой быстротой.

I wanted to offer you some flowers, but a crown would suit a princess like you much better

Смысл жизни в том, что жизнь на тебе не заканчивается

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