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All these figures are taken only from the data of those people who are willing to provide them, but they do not reflect the entire real picture. I am not saying that such examples do not exist, but this does not apply to all men and women. A person is such a subjective being that no figures and statistical data will take into account all the nuances.
In the last century, before all these dating sites, ads, and social networks, people found partners and got married not because of their appearance or some social activities, but because relatives introduced them to someone. And usually, it was a "parent-approved" arranged marriage, and there was no talk of love. Especially in villages. The opinion of the girl and the guy was of little interest to anyone, yes. And there were no divorces then not because the families were ideal, but because it was condemned by the church/society. And they tolerated adulterers, drunkards, and domestic tyrants.
Even in the time of our parents, a certain calculation was involved. And they looked not at appearance, but at what family the person came from and whether the second half was suitable in terms of social status. And going against the will of parents was not a good idea.
Although dating through correspondence, random phone calls, and newspaper ads already existed. But it was dangerous, and you could run into some kind of inadequate person.
Now, in the market, there is almost complete freedom of choice. If we are talking about adequately raised people, parents no longer influence the choice, just as social status does (yes, there are still mothers who raise mama's boys/girls and instill in them that there is no person worthy of their child). And it turned out that with this freedom, a kind of gateway to hell opened. Here you have statistics on divorces, because people realized that they can leave bad spouses. And girls are now actively selling their bodies on OnlyFans "to please normies" (in fact, to profit from them). And crowds of lonely people.
Moreover, loneliness is largely due not to those very ill-fated dating sites, but to the psychological characteristics of the people themselves. It has become more convenient for everyone to communicate in a safe format through correspondence than to look for live meetings and acquaintances. Again, not everyone has the desire and opportunity to go to some kind of interest groups, where you can really meet someone suitable, because this is a way out of your comfort zone. As long as you sit at home and communicate through correspondence, you know for sure: you will not be killed, raped, robbed, or scammed for a large sum in a fake restaurant. Hence the opinion that everyone chooses partners "only by appearance." After all, in correspondence, you don't see anything except the face presented in the photo.
In the last century, before all these dating sites, ads, and social networks, people found partners and got married not because of their appearance or some social activities, but because relatives introduced them to someone. And usually, it was a "parent-approved" arranged marriage, and there was no talk of love. Especially in villages. The opinion of the girl and the guy was of little interest to anyone, yes. And there were no divorces then not because the families were ideal, but because it was condemned by the church/society. And they tolerated adulterers, drunkards, and domestic tyrants.
Even in the time of our parents, a certain calculation was involved. And they looked not at appearance, but at what family the person came from and whether the second half was suitable in terms of social status. And going against the will of parents was not a good idea.
Although dating through correspondence, random phone calls, and newspaper ads already existed. But it was dangerous, and you could run into some kind of inadequate person.
Now, in the market, there is almost complete freedom of choice. If we are talking about adequately raised people, parents no longer influence the choice, just as social status does (yes, there are still mothers who raise mama's boys/girls and instill in them that there is no person worthy of their child). And it turned out that with this freedom, a kind of gateway to hell opened. Here you have statistics on divorces, because people realized that they can leave bad spouses. And girls are now actively selling their bodies on OnlyFans "to please normies" (in fact, to profit from them). And crowds of lonely people.
Moreover, loneliness is largely due not to those very ill-fated dating sites, but to the psychological characteristics of the people themselves. It has become more convenient for everyone to communicate in a safe format through correspondence than to look for live meetings and acquaintances. Again, not everyone has the desire and opportunity to go to some kind of interest groups, where you can really meet someone suitable, because this is a way out of your comfort zone. As long as you sit at home and communicate through correspondence, you know for sure: you will not be killed, raped, robbed, or scammed for a large sum in a fake restaurant. Hence the opinion that everyone chooses partners "only by appearance." After all, in correspondence, you don't see anything except the face presented in the photo.
