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I feel like the tolerance-and-acceptance advice generally works; otherwise, statistics on certain things would be 20 times higher. Another thing is that it doesn't help everyone.

Yeah, I also think it's 20 times more.
It's a real shame that it works. Without it, there would be less worthless, unwanted human trash. We wouldn't have to live in a multi-apartment shithole. Or they wouldn't have appeared at all, which would be even better.

Everything listed also relates to traumatic factors that need to be dealt with.
When you start tackling your "demons," you have to catch every single one with a specialist, and then work through them. If you leave out any missed details—it's game over.
Because often everything starts with shit from childhood, and then it snowballs. And the kind of bullshit like "being unable to achieve the desired" is also solved by a deep analysis of why it's not working. And as a rule, it's not about superficial problems like "no money" and "mom didn't let me" (although that doesn't make them non-traumatic to the psyche)...

What do you mean "deal with"?))) These are facts. Just facts. You can't "deal with" them by imagining that something was wrong in childhood. And IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO KNOW HOW IT SHOULD BE! No offense, but this is all fantasy on the level of fortune-telling and discussions about the essence of God. Most psychologists do the same thing priests have been doing for thousands of years before them. Only the first is somehow called science, and the second is obscurantism. WHY IS IT NOT WORKING? Well, it is IMPOSSIBLE TO CHECK AND PROVE that some specific event had an influence. Simply because you can't run an experiment to prove it. You simply can't go back into the past, copy-paste people, create different conditions for each, and see what happens. Isn't it obvious that if such an experiment is impossible, then any other methods of finding out are NOTHING BUT fantasies and hot air? They deal in hot air, convincing people that they can do something. If it doesn't work, they convince you that you're still in some other pile of shit; if it does work, then everything worked, "I'm a fucking awesome psychologist" ))))

Besides, why did the plane crash? WHO GIVES A FUCK, EVERYONE IS ALREADY DEAD, IT WON'T HELP THEM! But in the case of a plane, you can at least figure out the design flaws, etc., and fix them in the future. With a person, it won't work like that. Because there are too many factors that trigger on one day and not on another. It's all just fucking random.

However, I will not deny the fact that something needs to change if the finances are unsatisfactory. But here too, first you need to figure yourself out, then either take some training, or fuck around with interviews until you win. And sooner or later, some result will come.

And that's exactly what I'm changing ))) Just

I'm fucking tired of doing something for several years and getting almost absolutely no good things that would make me even slightly happy. One hand's fingers would be enough to count these joys. Over 5 pissed-on years. Normal people are happy about something at least once a month. Not once a year. For a few hours. What fucking great motivation to keep doing something, just total bullshit.

What is there to figure out? That the things that could make me happy, so that it would be easier for me to sort out my finances, don't exist? And most of these things are complete random and can't even be solved with money. And what can be obtained for money is also unavailable, because there's no money ))) That's the fucking vicious circle. And there is no UNIVERSAL recipe for getting out of it. And no PSYCHOLOGIST will find one personally for you. You can bang your head against the wall your whole life and nothing will happen. Either you succeeded in fact, or you didn't. There is no third option.

Oh, this universal injustice really pisses me off sometimes. And while everything is fine with those who achieved the desired through effort, those whose parents/acquaintances provide everything—sometimes I want to wish them testicular cancer. Though, not so much them, but the lucky ones of this fucking vicious system, where the desired position, first place in a contest, and so on are given not to the one who deserved it, but to some brother/relative/child of friends and so on down the list.

You're probably saying this as a joke. But there is no such thing as injustice or justice. Things just happen, that's all. It's impossible to "figure it out." Especially if it's society. Too many factors that supposedly influence each other. And tomorrow they don't influence anymore. And so on. If you could isolate something from this, there would be accurate predictions of future events. Not a guessing game.

And while everything is fine with those who achieved the desired through effort.

No, Neyra, it's not fine. Talk to such people. There are no more narcissistic pieces of shit. Little idiots provided for by parents/relatives usually don't even think about how everything fell into their laps and just enjoy the free ride. The first group, however, are maximum degenerates who believe that they ACHIEVED EVERYTHING THEMSELVES. A banal survivor bias. And who gives a fuck that hundreds of thousands of people did the exact same thing, and even better than them, and got NOTHING, NOTHING FUCKING at all. But the piece of shit achieved everything alone, of course. Alone. Yeah. It's fine when such a person modestly keeps quiet about their successes. But when they try to tell you that you just need to WORK hard, TRY hard, etc., and then everything will work out, you shouldn't indulge their stupidity and nod in response; you should spit in their face and tell them they're a degenerate.

So why not get [help]? They help many people.

I don't really want to get hooked on them.