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I completely agree with everything said; Eckhart Tolle is definitely worth reading in terms of getting rid of pain!!
Yes, that's how it is; until you awaken — pain is inevitable and serves as a very powerful awakening factor. The more pain there is in a person's life, the closer they are to awakening.
The foundation of happiness is unity with oneself always. You must remember the main thing — acceptance of psychological pain opens the gates to moving beyond it. You must accept everything that causes you pain; you must engage in a dialogue with it. It is you. There is no other way to get rid of pain; the only way is to accept it... A person suffers, a person agonizes — everyone seeks a state of happiness, a state of unity with life. A person feels lonely, rootless. Hence the desire to once again take root in existence, to become greening again, to become blessed again. We need to understand something. Absolute unity with consciousness or life is unity with oneself. For this, we must reject nothing. This is the first thing that needs to be understood. Wholeness is the first step on the path to bliss. This is what all sages insist upon again and again: wholeness is bliss. One must accept everything. Nothing should be rejected. If you reject something, you create problems, and the problems become increasingly complex.
• The First Step — acceptance: The greatest desire in the world is the desire for inner transformation. Money, power, authority — they are nothing; the greatest desire is the so-called thirst for the spiritual. If you are gripped by this desire, you will never succeed. Transformation is possible. But not through desire. Transformation is possible through relaxation into the situation as it is. Transformation is caused by unconditional self-acceptance. We need to take this seriously, for this is the heart of the universal situation. A person suffers, a person agonizes — everyone seeks a state of happiness, a state of unity with life. A person feels lonely, rootless. Hence the desire to once again take root in existence, to become greening again, to become blessed again. We need to understand something. Absolute unity with consciousness or life is unity with oneself. For this, we must reject nothing. This is the first thing that needs to be understood. For example, right now you are experiencing real fear. If you reject it, you suppress it; you wound your essence. You are afraid to look the truth in the eye. But this is a fact, this is reality. If you stop looking your fear in the eye, it will not disappear. You are behaving like an ostrich. Upon seeing an enemy or mortal danger, an ostrich hides its head in the sand. But the enemy does not disappear because of this. The ostrich only becomes more vulnerable before the enemy. Thinking that there is no enemy — since he sees no one — the ostrich rids itself of fear. In fact, it exposes itself to even greater danger; an unnoticed enemy is more dangerous. If the ostrich did not hide its head in the sand, something could be done. People do the same thing. If you are afraid of something, you try not to notice it — but this is a fact, you are not accepting a part of your essence. You have divided yourself into parts. Then one day you will not want to accept anger, then you will not want to accept greed. And so on. Negative emotions do not disappear because you do not wish to perceive them. You have destroyed your own wholeness. The more you destroy yourself, the more unhappy you are.
• Wholeness is the first step on the path to bliss. This is what all mystics insist upon again and again: wholeness is bliss. One must accept everything. Nothing should be rejected. If you reject something, you create problems, and the problems become increasingly complex. It is simple — if you are afraid, what do you do? You admit: "Yes, I am afraid." That's all! If you admit your cowardice — that is already courage! Only a brave person can confess their fear — you are already on the path to transformation. So, first — reject nothing that can be experienced through experience. To achieve this, consciousness must stop identifying itself with obsessive, static ideas. This is second. If your mind clings to ideas about who you are, it does not accept the reality that contradicts these ideas. If you have ideas about how you should be, you cannot accept yourself as you are. If you have an idea that you should be brave, it is difficult for you to accept your faint-heartedness. If you have an idea of being a very compassionate person — like the Buddha — you cannot accept your anger. This is an ideal that creates problems. No ideal — no problems. If you are a coward, be a coward! Since you have no ideal of being brave, you do not judge yourself — you do not reject or suppress your fear. If you drive fear into the subconscious, it will continue to create problems for you. It is like a disease driven inside. If it manifests — there is a possibility that it will disappear. If a disease manifests — that is good. This is the path to healing — then it gains contact with the sun and fresh air and can be cured. If you do not allow it to come to the surface, if you drive it inward, it turns into cancer. Even a minor illness can become dangerous if you suppress it.
One must never suppress an illness. However, suppression is natural if you have an ideal. For example, if you have an ideal of maintaining celibacy, sex becomes a problem. This is easy to notice. If you have no ideal of maintaining celibacy, you do not renounce sex. There is no separation between you and your sexuality. Unity is established between them. This unity, this union, brings you joy. The foundation of happiness is unity with oneself always. So, the second thing that must be remembered — abandon ideals. Just think — if you have an ideal, you should have three eyes. Because you have two instead of three eyes (as it should be — as your ideal suggests), a problem arises. You want to have a third eye. You have created an unsolvable problem! The most you can do is draw a third eye on your forehead. But a drawn third eye is just a drawn third eye; it is a fake. Ideals make people fake. An absurdity results: although the ideal of people is not to be fake, it is precisely ideals that bring fakeness. If all ideals disappear — fakeness will disappear.
Why does fakeness exist? It is a consequence of the presence of ideals. The higher the ideal — the more the fakeness. There are more hypocrites in India than anywhere else in the world. Why? Because for many centuries, India lived by great ideals. Mad, strange ideals... For example, a Jain monk is dissatisfied if he cannot eat very rarely, like the mythological Mahavira. It is said that out of twelve years, Mahavira ate only one year. That is, he ate once every twelve days. If this is your ideal, you condemn yourself to great unhappiness. If this is not your ideal — no problems.
• The cause of the problem is the ideal. Understand this. A Christian monk is not bothered by this problem. A Jain monk suffers constantly — he cannot reach the ideal; he fails. If you are truly, genuinely pure, you do not sweat. This is a Jain idea. Now you have this foolish idea! Your body will continue to sweat, you will continue to suffer. The more ideals you have, the more hypocritical you are — if you cannot achieve the ideal, you must pretend. This is where fakeness comes from. If we accepted reality as it is, there would be no hypocrisy in the world. If we live by what is, and not by what we "should" or "must," where could hypocrisy come from? Once someone asked me: "Are you not a hypocrite? You live in comfort, you have a beautiful house, a wonderful car. You live like a king." He does not understand what the word "hypocrisy" means. Everything I teach is to live as well as possible. I am not a hypocrite. I live according to what I teach. It would be hypocrisy if I taught living in poverty while living in a palace. But I do not teach living in poverty; that is not my goal. I live naturally: living in convenience and comfort is very natural. Not living in comfort, if it is possible, is stupid. That's another matter if it is impossible. Live comfortably in the conditions available to you..........
Osho