All that we are arises with our thoughts.
With our thoughts, we make the world.
Speak or act with a pure mind,
and happiness will follow you,
unshakable, like your shadow." (c) Buddha
When someone becomes a Buddha – desire is overcome, the mind is overcome, time is overcome, the ego is transcended – they are no longer part of this earth. They still live on earth, but their soul soars so high that from the sunlit peaks they can see the desperate crowds in the dark valleys of life, stumbling, drunken, struggling, ambitious, greedy, evil, violent... a pure waste of great opportunities. In their being, great compassion arises. All their passion passes through detachment and becomes compassion.
Passion means using another as a means – and this is the basis of immorality. To use someone as a means is the most immoral act in the world, because every person is a goal in themselves. To use them means to exploit them. And this is what we call love: a husband uses his wife, a wife uses her husband; children use their parents, and then parents use their children – this is what we call love!
This is not love. It is a strategy of the mind; it is poison covered in sugar. This love is truly repulsive. That is why you see the world experiencing such disgust. This love is nauseating. It disgusts the entire soul of humanity, because it is not love at all. It is passion, lust, using another as a means.
When you begin to meditate, you move towards the second stage, detachment – love disappears. You enter a neutral phase.
Osho