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By the way, Revan, I wanted to say something, but I kept getting distracted and forgetting. I strongly advise against looking for a partner through dating sites. I've seen firsthand that it doesn't work well for perfectly normal people. It seems that normal people are rarely found there, and even if they are, they don't stay for long. It reminds me of Avito threads; maybe someone has seen them and had experiences with those kinds of ads. Of course, you can find an interesting person on a forum or chat group based on shared interests, but it's very difficult and often involves hidden pitfalls. However, the chances of finding something good are significantly higher there. But even if you are successful, you shouldn't set yourself up to only be there to find a partner, because nothing good will come of it either. Just have the desire to communicate with interesting people, and let things unfold naturally. I can't speak for the statistics, but from what I see around me, most successful couples form through real-life encounters. Although there are nuances there too. I want to add to what SIVA said. First, the initial period with a Korean girl might be wonderful, all sweet and cute, but then everyday life sets in, which very often destroys even seemingly strong couples (that's how my friends divorced after being together for 12 years). Plus, when there's not enough attention, things like "you don't love me anymore" or "I need more of your attention" might start (that's what SIVA was talking about). Not everyone is ready to support their partner in a depressive situation. For example, you might get tired of everything, the routine, the clients, and everything else, and want to be alone, but she might take it personally, and in addition to you being depressed, she'll be crying too. And in the worst case, instead of support, she might start cheating; unfortunately, there are people like that too.

Maybe it just seems that way to me because I'm not a pickup artist, but any attempt at a relationship involves a 90% chance of failure for one reason or another. That's why experienced people rely on the number of attempts, not the quality. It's like fishing with nets.

I have a friend whose attempts at relationships almost always end in failure. It's a shame because he's a good guy, but on the other hand, I understand the reason for his failures, but I don't know how to get it across to him, considering he doesn't want to hear it. "Fishing with nets," as SIVA notes, is useless. It's perfectly logical that it doesn't yield any results. I don't know how it is for most people, but in my opinion, it all starts with ordinary friendship and a desire to communicate, which is reinforced by a natural attraction to each other (I doubt that attraction will develop to someone whose appearance is, to put it mildly, repulsive). Otherwise, people are just interested in communicating with each other; they should be united by some common interests, and then gradually everything turns into flirting and more.

There is no salvation. Neither in the arms of others nor anywhere else (although some people who are completely out there find it, but you have to be seriously out there, and it's unlikely that will happen to you).

Sometimes there is, if a person sees the meaning of life in this and fate brings them the right partner. For others, these embraces can be destructive.

It's better to idealize, romanticize, and live in anticipation of something good.

Not necessarily.

You can already put an end to the story, Happy End. But since our lives aren't a movie, there would be a sequel. As an option, I would die from an excess of serotonin in my body.

You can be fired from your job at any moment; that person might cheat/just leave/die/become a vegetable/become boring, disappointing, and turn into a personal demon/etc. And that's what I'm saying about the scenario where you don't die from an excess of serotonin during that brief, idyllic period of life. Although that doesn't mean that after the happy ending, a fairy tale begins, where you become a truly happy person, a successful employee, and have a loving, tender wife. But things rarely work out that well for ordinary and honest people. Usually, there's something missing, or there's nothing at all :smile42:.

And if you're going to listen to anyone about relationships and living together, it should be successful people in that regard, not hermits from a forum.

What about successful hermits from a forum?