I remembered how a guy approached me on the street to chat, and I was confused for a while, wondering what he wanted, and then I gave him a scary look and ran away.
If Revan and I are really similar in some way, then it was probably a lack of determination and the reasons that go with it. As for the situations themselves, I think it's worth taking a risk, because no one will force you to do anything with her later. And there's a chance that she'll refuse. If not, there's a high chance that she won't be what you wanted, and you can continue to live with a clear conscience, without any doubts.